Friday, October 19, 2012

The Big Debate

While usually, you can find me talking about coffee and family - which are never topics for debate in my case, they just come with the package - I'm branching outside my comfort box here today to talk to you about the Big Debate. No, I'm not talking about the presidential debates - you can sigh relief here - we are discussing more serious issues than middle class taxes, immigration and gas prices, this is about the future of our country and our children people!

I'm speaking today on the topic I debate about the most over at 

The Sarcasm Goddess!
Leave my insides out of it!

Come visit me over there and see who really won the debate!

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Resilience in Children - Parenting 101

You can help kids by simply presenting them with opportunities and allowing them to help themselves.  Teaching children these real life skills can start at an early age, probably earlier than you might even think possible.  It's been proven time and time again by my friend and featured guest today.

"Resilience grows each time we give our kids a new skill."
~Deborah Gilboa, MD

Self Esteem and Children

Child psychology tells us that building self esteem in children will aid Early Childhood Development but if it's just being handed over to them, being continually pumped by parents, what is that really Teaching Children? Think about it, have you learned more by someone telling you something repeatedly or by actually going through it yourself? Why not help your children learn the same way?  Have them build their own self esteem by teaching kids skills, presenting them with the opportunities and situations to become proud of themselves.  You are probably already doing it in one way or another, you may just have to tweak it a little.

Resilience in children 

Many Parenting Books give you too much information and not necessarily the specific information you may need for your particular child. 

Present: Doctor G's 1st book in the Three R's of Parenting Series

Teach Resilience: Raising Kids Who Can Launch! 


A straightforward, purse size read that can be referred to often (and easily in the carpool line) that offers you 50 opportunities that can easily and immediately be pulled off in real life situations navigated by age group. Teaching children resilience isn't nearly as hard as it sounds.

Here's a little taste by age:
2 - 4
Trying a New Food
Handling Boredom
5 - 7
What's for Dinner?
Clean a Bathroom
8 - 10
Field Trip Forms
Setting an Alarm Clock

Not only does this book give you ideas on how to build self esteem in children, DocG also extends the book by providing helpful links and videos that can be instantly viewed on your phone through QR codes. She even gets into those hard to reach tween and teen years as well going up to the ripe age of 17.

After reading this book, my son later came to me with a Nintendo DS problem that required calling an 800#.  I had him call the number and navigate the automated system until he got to a live person.  I only had to give an okay, then handed the phone back to him so he could follow directions from the representative.  Guess what?  The problem was solved by him, not by mommy coming to the rescue.  The pride was apparent in him, so much that he wanted to call back later to get his game online.  

Give your kids the Early Education they need in life to be successful and resilient rather than dependent on you.  Make it easier on yourself now. 
They will thank you for it later!

Doctor G (Deborah Gilboa, MD) is a board certified Family Physician, mom of four kids and founder of, a resource for parents and educators who are working to raise great kids. She gives parenting workshops around the country and offers great free tools for raising kids who are Respectful, Responsible and Resilient! (Hello - the Three R's)

She can be found:

On twitter: @AskDocG 
Facebook: AskDoctorG 

*Disclosure: I was given a book for review and was in no way paid for this post.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Twofer Tuesday: Rites of Passage Edition

This past week has proved to be interesting, a week with scenes that my son will have etched in his mind like a brain burn that is likely to last well into adulthood.  It's one of those good parenting skills weeks where as a parent you wonder if maybe you have ruined a childhood, or at least broken it a little more.  I still wonder what goes on inside that head of his and when you hear the children's rites of passage he achieved this week, you probably will too...

It started early last week when he lost a tooth which he not only extracted but also lost so we were a couple days late as it was.  At ten, he's now losing molars, I'm not sure exactly what they even go for these days.

I went into his room at the ungodly tooth fairy hour assuming he was asleep -  of course that was my first mistake.  I slipped the numerous quarters under his blanket which was now next to him, his pillow being on the floor probably from some sleeping frenzy of sorts.  I was proud not having made a sound with the coins, thinking I had another successful mom moment under my belt I walked toward the door.  That's when I heard a small whisper from across the room:

"You know the tooth isn't there right?"

My heart instantly hit the floor, I could feel my cheeks and chest burning in the darkness. Could I be busted? He is 10 after all.

"What are you talking about?" I asked in hopes that somehow he was sleep talking and wouldn't remember a thing about this late night encounter.

"The tooth isn't there, I still couldn't find it."

Wanting to just tell him to go to sleep and run like hell, I found myself walking back to the bed, searching for something to say without having to give myself up. 

"Mom, is the tooth fairy real?" he asked in an innocently yet in a tone that said he already knew the real answer.

I decided answer a question with a question.
"Did you just bust me?' I said leaning in to kiss him.
He asked again, "Is the tooth fairy real?"

"Did you just bust me?"
"I guess I did" he said smiling in the dark.
"Don't. tell. anybody."

*     *     *     *     *     *     *     *     *     *     *

Fast forward now to a couple days later while I'm cleaning the kitchen counters and find this artistic little gem colored by my daughter:

I pass it off for her to put away in her room.

"Who did this?" she asked in a disgusted tone, "someone drew a Y on the top of her shirt mom, look."

She's got cleavage!
I immediately turn to my son who naturally denies the whole thing.
Mu husband walks into the room and I hand him the paper to which he has the same reply questioning the boy.

"Who did this?"

"I don't know."

"Are you telling me your dad did this?" I ask, "I know I didn't do it."

We all sit down at the kitchen table as my mind is being blown while at the same time, my husband shoots me an enormous smile of pride from the other side as soon as he sees nobody else is looking.

"I swear mom, I didn't do it, why would I do that?"

"I don't know - why WOULD you do that?  People just don't go around putting Y's on girls chests for no reason do they?"

"I wouldn't do that," he said with the same look I saw that fateful tooth fairy night.  
We both knew he did it.

It was obvious.  
My sweet little boy is starting to grow up, growing out of the innocence all at once.
Nobody told me it would happen all in the same week.

What rites of passage have your kids survived?

*this post is linked up with @SarcasmGoddess on her Procrastinators Year in Review link up

Monday, October 8, 2012

Join Me for #CoffeeChat

Over the last couple weeks, I've decided that Mondays get a better response both in comments on facebook and responses on twitter so get used to #CoffeeChat on Mondays. Exciting announcement: I will also be starting a chat on twitter using the hashtag starting next Monday the 15th starting at 8:30am CST.  Please join in on the chat if you are around, or plan to be there if you usually aren't.  Hilarity may ensue, or I may be talking to myself, who knows...either way, I'm going to have a good time!

Today let's visit Beaune, France and a little place by the market square to have our chat..

I think since working at a coffee shop in the early 90's, I have always had a pipe dream that I would one day own my own shop..

Your coffee question today: 
Tell me - who introduced you to coffee?

I know coffee is a learned experience or at least something you acquired over the years and I want to know your story. Everybody has a story. To find out mine, please see one of my early posts about how far back coffee and I go.  You will find I was pretty young when my addiction was set into place and maybe you share that in common with me.

I can't wait to see you next week on the twitter chat - don't worry, you know I will remind you before then!  Let me know in the comments if you will be interested in joining (or lurking around) the chat.  Hoping this will be a regular weekly thing!

Thursday, October 4, 2012

10 Things Taken From #BloggyCon

As I've mentioned, I'm slowly becoming a conference junkie as it's becoming a goal of mine to meet people I've never known - does that even sound sane? There are people I know I was destined to meet this past weekend, never knowing them before this conference, that I know I will definitely see again in the future.  This happened at Bloggy Boot Camp as well but with this Bloggy Conference, it was three fold.  People were very open and genuine whether they were speakers or newbies, everyone seemed to be on the same level when it came to standing in line for a head shot, or taking notes from fellow speakers probably because we were all there for the same cause - Growing with our Blogs.  Even though the growth was not the same for all, everyone got something out of it, leaving inspired with great ideas on how to move forward.  

There's bacon in those olives!
I am still wrapping my head around Bloggy Con I think, because it was the first multi-day experience I've had which takes it to a completely different level than the others I've gone to. Not to mention the nights in between with burgers, great ice cream and jaw dropping bacon filled olives in martinis! 

Tiffany and Sherry do an awesome job in selecting the speakers and sponsors chosen. Everything was professional, yet easy to digest - especially the coffee break - and the candy filled dishes on the tables were a perfect touch. Connections made were meaningful. 

It was encouraging to watch people meeting each other with hugs whether it was for the first time in an elevator or after knowing each other before meeting in person.  It was hard to tell the difference. Everybody was gracious, open and able to learn from one another. I never felt out of place sharing my own ideas in any session or conversation.

I have a few posts in the works that I would like to share based on the sessions I went to and the people I met, but let's just start with my top 10 take aways...

1. Blog more often, like nobody is reading.
2. Give yourself grace.
3. Over the top is funnier than real life.
4. Be concise.
5. Have a call to action. 
6. There is no magic formula.
7. A Brakini  TM does actually exist.
8. Deliver the punch line first.
9. I need to talk more.
10. Life is about friends.

If you haven't been to a conference, I would definitely recommend Bloggy Con as a perfect place to start.  It's a great opportunity to find like minded people whether you are a newbie or an experienced blogger. I really have @AskDocG to thank for this (and the picture above) as she was the first to put a bee in my bonnet about this conference and was generous enough to help me get there. Without her, I would be in a different place.  

Life is about friends!

Have you been to any blogging type conferences?  

What was your experience?

P.S. I think I left my shoes in Cincinnati.