Wednesday, May 23, 2012

These Little Waves just got a little smaller


So today is such a good day!  I have your friend and mine, Galit Breen of These Little Waves as my Featured Guest this week - so exciting!  Galit has some wonderful stuff out on the interwebs including her monthly meme with Alison of Mama Wants This called Memories Captured among these other amazing things:

  • Buy a book, fight cancer. Find out about Write for the Fight here
  • Inspire creativity in someone (young!) that you love. Find out about Pens and Paint here.
  • Her writing can also be found at BlogHerScary Mommy, The SITS Girls among numerous other great places around the internet - you don't have to look very far to find her!

A mother of three living in the heartland, Galit is an author first and a blogger second - it shines through in  her words and seeps into your soul.  I have not seen another blogger that epitomizes author for me like she does.  I think you will agree when you read her post she so graciously shares with us today:



I sat in my closet and cried today. It’s probably not what you think.
I was surrounded by clothes. Denims and knits and fibers that cannot be named. 
Teacher clothes. Maternity Clothes. New Mom clothes. 
Each one stitched to tell a worn part of my story.
After a weekend of battling my daughters over their own closet -the way it was full and messy and not what it should be- my husband ever so subtly ran his fingers through his hair and his eyes over my side of the closet and his thoughts right over my heart and said, “Maybe it’s time to tackle your clothes.”
And tackling, is exactly what it feels like I’m doing.
And so, I sat in my closet and cried today.
I placed fabric between my fingers, breathing in its familiar feel, as a single tear ran down my cheek.
***
“I lost ten pounds!” She says. Her smile lighting her way as she flips her long chocolate locks behind one shoulder.
I mirror her smile. How can I not? It glows from within.
“I just hope I can keep it off.” She confides. “I’m not getting rid of these jeans. Not yet.” Her light darkens.
And I get this, from my very own dark place.
***
I believe with every fiber of my being that you have to be willing to let go of one, in order to embrace another.
Things that don’t work, but take up time and energy and heart and being, have to be released to allow Better Goodness in.
***
I think this is true for jobs and relationships and roles and labels.
So in the most literal meaning of my MindHeart’s belief, I cry for these too big, somewhat ugly, not my own, but oh so very comfortable clothes.
Because them, I get. And this role of “in between sizes” and “trying to lose weight,” I also get.
It's the other side of being comfortable in my skin and loving my clothes and their fit, that's new. And new, is hard.
***
That's why I cried in my closet today. My tears slid freely as I place Old Fits into a Donate bag.
Mid-cry Brody slid into my lap and in his "quiet" three-ness asked, “What’s the matter, mommy?”
“I guess I’m sad to say good bye to my clothes.” I whispered.
He traced my sad. His tiny fingertips touched my cheek and my nose and my chin. 
Then he said, “But there are good ones righthere," gesturing above us where my newer, better fit clothes hang neatly side by side.
And I was struck by his rightness. 
Change is hard. But Better Good is rightthere, if we choose to loosen our fingertips grasps on Old, and let New in.

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See? Didn't I tell you about feeling it in your soul?
I think if you haven't already discovered Galit for yourself, you should be inclined to get to know her!  Thank you Galit again for writing for me today - it means a lot to me that you decided to share with us!


You can find Galit on twitter @GalitBreen
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58 comments:

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, my sweet friend, for hosting me today and for that oh-so-very kind and generous introduction! xo

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

I'm not good with change, so I can understand some of those emotions under there. But at the same time, I'm thrilled for you. This is a wonderful thing!

Julia said...

Gorgeous. You are so very right; the good IS rightthere, but it doesn't make it any easier to go through the inevitable process of change.
Lovely, as always, sweet friend.

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, sweet friend, for seeing both sides of this!

(And don't worry - I see both sides, too!)

Galit Breen said...

Oh, how you read my heart.

Thank you for that. Truly.

xo

Anymommy said...

Galit never fails to speak directly to my heart. She is so right here, as she so often is, and yet, I feel my resistance. The clothes I need to let go - and the time and the life and the longings - are different, but the letting go is just as hard.

Alison@Mama Wants This said...

Change is hard, my friend. But your little one (as they usually are!) is right - better is righthere. And you have your loves to help you through it. xo

Galit Breen said...

It just is, isn't it?

At least we can embrace it, and inch our way away from it.

(Thank you for those words. I love every one of them.)

Galit Breen said...

They are so very often right in their wisdom, aren't they?

Thank you for your ever-support, sweet you! It means the world to me!

xo

Kimberly said...

I am so not good with change, so I can relate to this completely. Sometimes though, it's exactly what we need.

CoffeeLovinMom said...

Thank YOU for being here! I loved having you!

Angie said...

I love that three-ness was just what you needed. So simple. So succinct. Perfect.

xx

the robot mommy said...

What a sweet post! Change brings so many emotions. I hope this brings you elation :)

Barbara @ Footprints in France said...

I love Galit and her blogd. Her words are always so touching. That Brody is definitely wise beyond his years.

Tracy Morrison said...

Love you, Galit. Change is hard. You're amazing my friend. xoxo

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, my friend. I'll be in your same boat anytime!

Galit Breen said...

He was, indeed, exactly what I needed! xo

Galit Breen said...

Than you sweet Barbara, so very much. xo

Galit Breen said...

Love you right back, dear friend.

(And thank you, so much.)

xo

Jester Queen said...

Ooooh, very well spoken. I'm forcing myself to get rid of clothes as I lose weight, and that fear that I'll need them again is hard to get over.

Kir said...

any change can put you on that floor in the closet, I know that space and place so well too, but it's when I pick myself up and wipe my eyes and pick up the bag, knowing that something so much better is waiting for me. I remember putting the boys clothes in bags for another little boy and I smelled every piece of fabric and remember them in them, the pictures floating around my mind but knew that they were going to a better place, my children were here and had GRWON out of their clothes, it was a miracle. I recenlty lost about 10 lbs too and I like you look longingly at some of my "L" shirts , the ones I like ...but know that the "M" are better for me and my health and and my well being. So I hold on and let go and smile. Always smile.

love you Galit. xo

Galit Breen said...

Thank you for "getting me" and "getting it," friend. That means so very much to me!

Galit Breen said...

Oh you and your MyHeartSoGetsYours words. Thank you for those. Truly.

(And love you right back!)

Heatheroftheeo said...

Isn't it something how we can just be STRUCK with sad like this and then sit to try to figure out what our sad is really all about? You said that beautifully, of course. Love you.

Amy ~ Eatlivelaughshop said...

I love how our children so often bring our world into the proper perspective. So sweet. xoxox

Jessica said...

Sometimes these kids know exactly the right thing to say. It's okay to let go for you are headed in a good direction.

Galit Breen said...

Love you, and your words and your noticing, right back. xo

Galit Breen said...

Love the way you worded that, girlfriend.

(so much)

And thank you!

(also so much. :))

Galit Breen said...

Thank you so very much, sweet friend!

(And oh my, yes! Soften our world, indeed!)

xo

Elaine A. said...

I still have some "old" clothes I cannot part with because of the size and what if I need them again?! I should just get rid of them, but it's hard to let go, for many reasons. Just as you said here.

Love that Brody.

xo

Galit Breen said...

Love that Brody, and ohmygoodness love that you.

(Thanks so much for BeingInItWithMe, sweet friend!)

xo

Renee Schuls-Jacobson said...

Oh you! With your perfect words. Your clothes hold memories, no doubt. But the justrightness of you is a little lighter. Time to make room for even righter things that will compliment your inner beauty. ;-)

Janice said...

I totally get all this. I'm in that in-between phase too because I've been losing weight. I've already donated some of my "old" clothes and others are now in a box. Funny how we get attached to these things, no? Especially since we should be looking forward to getting rid of them in our quest for a better self. But just think about it, if we don't keep them, we won't have an excuse in the back of our minds saying, "It's ok if I gain some back, I've still got my old clothes." See, if they're gone, we HAVE more reason to stay fit and healthy! ;)

Greta said...

I was there recently, too, Galit. I got rid of my maternity clothes, my too big clothes and replaced them. It was hard. But I didn't want to have those bigger clothes taking up space in my closet or mind....I didn't want to let myself get back there again. (okay, maybe the maternity clothes, but that won't happen!)

jessica said...

This is so true Galit, embracing the new is tough but sometimes we don't see all the good that is right in front of us.

Galit Breen said...

You speak so very much truth here, friend!

(Thank you for getting it, it means so much to me!)

Galit Breen said...

I love that you paved the way for me, friend! Now hold my hand and kick my butt a little, will you? :)

(Thanks for the note, girl, so much!)

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, sweet friend, so very much.

(Must open our eyes that extra titch, yes?)

Leighannn said...

Oh my heart.
How bittersweet this change must be for you.
You have motivated yourself to change into this new body but your comfort lies in the old one.
You will get there, you are gorgeous in anything.
Your light glows from within.

Juliecgardner said...

Oh my goodness if this line isn't just right about almost anything....
"But there are good ones rightthere."

Yes. Oh my goodness.

How did he get to be so smart?
Oh wait. I already know.

Kimberly said...

Change is hard...no matter what kind of change it is.
You wrote this beautifully. I totally related to this xoxo

Tricia said...

So very beautiful. In the midst of some big changes myself I very much know how you feel. Change is so very hard but you have sweet little ones to help you through it.

Galit Breen said...

Oh thank you, my sweet friend.

That was - so, so very kind.

And warm.

And appreciated.

(very appreciated.)

Anti-Supermom said...

Just knowing that you have the support to be whomever it is, one whatever day, deserves your happiness.

Missy | Literal Mom said...

Beautiful. As always. I love that you have a hard time giving up your beloved items!

Galit Breen said...

That was lovely. Thank you, friend.

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, sweet friend. Always. :)

Pamela said...

Fabulous, Galit. It's hard to let go of what we were to become what we are and will be, and there is a mourning in that that you captured beautifully.

Galit Breen said...

Yes, that. Exactly that.

(Thank you so very much for writing my heart right there - humbling, in the best possible way.)

Jennifer Hall said...

Looooove this! Galit almost nearly takes my breath away when I read her. I should read her more!

Galit Breen said...

Thanks Jennifer, so very much. I really appreciate your note and your words!

Queen of Chaos Mom said...

Once again, Galit...you touched my heart. I just purged my closet and got rid of the teacher clothes (after 14 years!) and I cried like someone was rubbing salt in a wound. I hated finally accepting that I won't be a teacher anymore. I have my "skinny" clothes and I can't get rid of them because it means accepting that I'll be this size. I am happy for you that your Better is rightthere!

Angela Amman said...

Oh, this is so lovely. I recently got rid of some old clothes, too. And it was difficult. When you say that, people assume it's because those clothes are too small, but it's hard to get rid of the bigger ones, too.

Like so many other things, it can be easier to accept the bad things about ourselves than the positive ones.

I am so proud of you!

Galit Breen said...

Thank you for your words and support and most of all your GettingIt-ness, I so appreciate it all!

My Pixie Blog said...

Oh, that is just lovely. And I love Brody's very wise words. Sometimes it just takes the innocence of a child to help us understand the very basic things in life. Beautiful, Galit.

XOXO

Lady Jennie said...

As you know, I so, so get this. Cry away and then put the good ones on right there.

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, sweet you.

Being on the same team as you? Pure gold.

xo

Galit Breen said...

Thank you, my friend.

(so very much)

xo

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