There was an incident my husband shared with me besides the fire drill at the Daddy Daughter Dance this past weekend that has had me thinking about it all week so I decided to share with you the events that were told to me...
"There was this guy that was out in the hallway and we could see him from where we were standing in the gym but we couldn't hear what he was saying..he looked kind of ticked off and I just figured he was just having a talk with his kid. I looked at Robby (my sister's husband) and we were both a little curious because he was kind of getting loud..we got closer to the door to see him shaking his daughter by the shoulders, telling her she had to sit on the bench..basically sitting her there. I don't know if they were getting ready to leave and she didn't want to go or what but the way he was shaking her, she wasn't much bigger than Rhiannon. We felt a need to make our presence known. Once he saw us, he grabbed their coats and started to leave in a hurry. She didn't seem to be scared or crying so who knows what was going on or what the whole situation really was. We weren't sure what was going to happen once they left the building, but we wanted to make sure he was aware that we knew they were leaving so we followed them out the door and asked the guy if he had a problem with the little girl. He never answered us and we didn't go out into the parking lot to see if they really left or they just went out to the car. I don't know, maybe we should have.
We were just about back in the gym when the principal came up to us to see if we knew what was going on and what we saw. I don't know if she was sitting in the office watching the camera or where she came from but she got that news fast.
Then a little while later (which you know in mantime could be anywhere from 10 - 45 minutes), the guy shows back up with his kid and the dance went happily ever after. It was like nothing ever happened. I never saw the principal talk to him or anything and everything was fine once they came back in."
So this leaves me to wonder who this guy is and what goes on behind closed doors because you know there's more to the story with a man who publicly shakes his kid at a school dance. Sure they were in the hallway where he thought nobody was looking and she wasn't embarrassed in front of the crowd in the gym but this is supposed to be a special date and memory for your daughter. Instead you make it about you being a Big Man? You really want it to go down like that? Having to walk out and then come back however long later with your tail between your legs?
I'm not sure if it's easier or harder to throat punch a nameless person but I'd like to give him a chop with a crow bar right to the adam's apple for thinking he's all big and mighty. I know, I know I don't know the situation but in any case, his daughter is not older than fifth grade...there's no reason to be all up on a kid like that I don't care what they did. Picking a kid up and putting them somewhere is one thing, shaking them in the process just shows you thought you were losing control and you got it back by intimidation. Way to go chumpmaster - you win for being craptastic and cruel, most likely ruining what could have been a great memory. I hope your ears are burning like they've been dumped in hot sauce with a fan running on high that you can't turn off.
This also leaves me with a couple questions for you..Is being aware enough? Have you ever had a similar situation like this where you felt there was a need to say something?
I'm linking up with Debi again this week. I wasn't sure I was gonna be any good at throat punching people but I gotta tell ya, it feels pretty good! You should join us..I know there's some idjit in your life you'd like to give a throat punch..don't be shy, you know you wanna!