Monday, September 12, 2011

I Kiss Better Than I Cook

I have this saying in my kitchen and go by it every day: "Leave Things Just a Little Better Than You Found Them."  This is really a message for my children to pick up after themselves and my way of delegating duties.  

My kitchen is never completely clean, yeah I clean it but it will never up to standards of certain company and it's only a little better than the condition I found it in in the first place. It hasn't been perfect since the day we moved in, and probably not even then. I have too much counter space that's easy to pile things up on.  I have a list of other lame excuses that don't even really justify it anymore especially with the kids back in school and me not working but in reality, I just don't feel like cleaning because it's a hopeless cause.  Not even 5 minutes after I clean something, someone spills or glitters it all up.  My idea of "clean" (and I use those quotations very loosely) is not that of anyone else's especially those who hardcore clean daily which honestly I have never done. Maybe almost once but then it's good for a couple weeks kind of thing.

While we are at it, I also have a sign in my kitchen that states: "I Kiss Better Than I Cook." This is debatable seeing as it would be hard to judge with the fact that I don't do either very often. (I kiss my kids more often than my husband but that's a whole other post.) So to say I'm slacking on the wifely duty department is putting it mildly. I procrastinate majority of the time and I could easily be a professional time waster.  I'm a slacker - there I said what my MIL has been telling my husband for years and what he thinks, he just has yet to voice it. Well the "kissing" part he voices quite often but has only once criticized my cleaning abilities to my face anyway and must just know not to mention it.




I don't run upstairs when the kids leave for school to make their beds nor do I make mine on a regular basis and I know people who can neglect everything but as long as the beds are made they feel like they accomplished something. What really is the standard of living up to the duties?  Does making the beds and getting my children in the habit of it really going to get me points somewhere or help them get a job someday?  I highly doubt it but this is a pet peeve of my husband's so he must get that mentality.

Only select parts of my house are clean at any given time, not usually the whole thing all at once unless we are having a party.  I try to clean a floor at a time if I get that far. This habit shines true when I clean just because it needs to be cleaned and my daughter asks: "Who's coming over?"

I'm not a hoarder by any means (well I suppose that depends on who you ask based on my piles of crap), it doesn't stink when you walk in unless the garbage is extra ripe and I'm sure my house would not be quarantined but the health department would give me minus lots of points for expired items in my refrigerator alone.


Having said all this, I want you to know I know...I do, I see my kids doing things half assed or not putting things away taking after my so called bad habits and even though it's not and I get on them to do what I say and not what I do this is all secretly okay with me.  I don't believe it's about how well you can make a bed or clean a toilet or how often you do any of those things that makes you who you are.  They make an effort just like I do when it's something that means something to them, that's when it really counts.  It's about being the best at being YOU and if that doesn't include housework, so be it! Those judgmental (notice the word mental in there?) people can judge all they want.

The fact that there are dishes left in my sink most nights does not change the fact that I would help you out at a moment's notice now does it?  It all gets done..eventually.


PROCRASTINATORS UNITE...only tomorrow okay?




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21 comments:

Elena said...

That last line is the best...there's always tomorrow in my book! I do like both of those sayings - especially the first one. I think I'll need that someday for my boys.

coffeelovinmom said...

I share procrastination with all of my friends - I think there's a support group even!

Tatter Scoops said...

Oh I love this! I'm a lousy cook and I hate cleaning. There I said it - don't stone me. When I was still married I cooked because there's just no way we can have take-outs every night. Now with me working long hours outside the house, I'd rather have a cuddle-fest with my son when I'm home than tackling the domestic chores. Love that sign you have btw!

Tammy Sonntag said...

I'm not alone! Thanks for sharing...

coffeelovinmom said...

There are so many things I would rather do than my domestic chores

coffeelovinmom said...

Glad to know that I'm not alone - thanks Tammy!

MotherhoodTruth said...

Hahaha...We are like twins...Coffee...check...housework...ummm what's that? Cooking...I put it on the stove does that count? The only time I make the bed is when I wash the sheets...and really our bed is just a comforter and a fitted sheet...anything else we get stuck. All 3 kids pick how they like their bed too. Bed making is not a thing here..Some have to make their before they can crawl into it...a made bed just looks like it belongs in a store and shouldn't be touched!

Kimberly said...

Oh, I'm not alone! I like getting things done, but life just seems to get in the way of that. And you know what? It's okay. There's always tomorrow!

Barbara said...

I had to laugh at the last line. My house is never clean at the same time although the kitchen is the one room that I clean all the time, mainly because it's the less used so it's easy to do!

The JackB said...

Ah, that making the bed thing is an ongoing battle. Never have understood why it has to be made to look just so when all I am going to do is mess it up again.

Amberr Meadows said...

Are we related? I make very little effort to clean my house, because I deplore it, and I'm not super affectionate with the hubby in the midst of wasting a lot of precious time and putting off mundane tasks. I do, however, kiss all over my little girl, because I love her and just can't help myself.

Angel G said...

I live by the 'illusion of clean'. It looks clean but don't open any cupboards and for heaven's sake do NOT look under the sink.
I just don't want my tombstone to read "she really knew how to clean". I'd rather it said "she loved and was loved"

coffeelovinmom said...

My husband is one of those..he makes it right before getting in it - makes no sense to me at all..

coffeelovinmom said...

I figure it will be there when I decide to get to it - whenever that may be.. I'm a great starter, just not so great on the finish part.

coffeelovinmom said...

I swear I clean something every day, just not the things people notice..

coffeelovinmom said...

My thoughts exactly..

coffeelovinmom said...

These are the only things my husband and I fight about, and it's mostly the affectionate part. Kids take your kisses for what they are, not what they might turn into..

coffeelovinmom said...

Yes the illusion of clean - that's what it is here too. Do not look in the closets where I have baskets upon baskets (literally) of crap cleaned off the kitchen counter because I just didn't want to deal with it...I probably should go back and deal with it at some point...

Rachel @ Lifeholdingstill said...

Oh yay... I'm not the only one whose bed goes unmade. :)

Mrs. Jen B said...

"Only tomorrow, okay?" had me laughing out loud! I'm a procrastinator too. And I'll be damned if I waste my time making my bed.

If I'm not really on top of it, clutter tends to build up too. I try to dedicate a little time over the course of the weekend to tidying up - but there have been times when I've cringed at the very sight of my kitchen (especially after one of my big cooking experiments!).

All you can do is the best you can do. I can't imagine growing up with a mom who was always hovering around with the dustbuster, just waiting to clean up a mess I made...!

Ed Adams said...

Fellow Midwesterner here.

My wife is the EXACT same way. I should have married a southern belle. I hear they cook good. j/k

Anyway, first time visitor. Cool Blog. Avatar is HOT!

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